becoming a mum
All I Want for Christmas is….Me

All I Want for Christmas is….Me

Dec 25, 2015

When I was growing up, our Christmas tradition (on Christmas Eve thanks to my Swedish dad) was to sit down with Glogg and cinnamon buns and take it in turns to unwrap our gifts, carefully and with some thought and discussion about each one. Like I said, my dad is...
The Afterbirth

The Afterbirth

May 28, 2013

It’s a sad fact but, after the chaos and commotion of birth and the first few days with a newborn, many women are left with regret and grief about the way their baby arrived in the world. It doesn’t matter how you gave birth, there are many and varied factors that...
The Invisible Cord

The Invisible Cord

Dec 29, 2012

As soon as your baby arrives in the world, the process of letting them go begins.  At birth, your previously merged selves become a duo and you immediately have to make choices (or they are made for you) about how separate you are going to be. Are you going to...
Let Myself Love

Let Myself Love

Nov 20, 2012

I hold your sleeping bodyCocooned in the crook of my armExamine your crinkly lidsAlien feetRosebud lips“Why don’t you put her down dear?Get some rest yourself?’But, for now, I’m going to let myself love youI rock your tense, taut bodyContained in the curve of my...
Walking Womb

Walking Womb

Nov 11, 2012

In my last post, I talked about the importance of immersing yourself in the bubble that surrounds you and your baby in the early weeks. For you, scary and uncertain as this time is, allowing the new role of mother to wash over you and for your other roles of partner,...