The Silent Army

The Silent Army My footsteps echo around meThere is birdsong in my earsA plugged-in jogger passesThe wind brings salty tearsMy heart stops at a carhornBut she slumbers onA dog walker slows to greet meFinger on lips, I move...
Ghost Busting

Ghost Busting

“In every nursery there are ghosts. They are the visitors from the unremembered past of the parents; the uninvited guests at the christening” Selma Fraiberg So far, I’ve written a lot about how important it is to trust your instincts. Today, just when you...
The Afterbirth

The Afterbirth

It’s a sad fact but, after the chaos and commotion of birth and the first few days with a newborn, many women are left with regret and grief about the way their baby arrived in the world. It doesn’t matter how you gave birth, there are many and varied factors that...
The Invisible Cord

The Invisible Cord

As soon as your baby arrives in the world, the process of letting them go begins.  At birth, your previously merged selves become a duo and you immediately have to make choices (or they are made for you) about how separate you are going to be. Are you going to...
Crib Sheet for Visitors

Crib Sheet for Visitors

Just a few words for grandparents, in-laws, helpful relatives, friends, healthcare professionals and strangers on the street. Thanks to all the lovely mamas who contributed.Things To Say to New MumsHow are you getting on?What’s changed since I last saw you and the...