The Storm Before the Calm

There’s a process you start to realise when you’ve been doing therapy for a while – either as a therapist or a client. After the initial meetings when you’re getting to know what the situation is and make a plan, you move into a slower phase of ‘doing the work’....

Your Children are not your Children

Your children are not your children.They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.They come through you but not from you,And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. – Khalil GibranThe first time your child takes a step away from you,...

Sorry Not Sorry

Do you make your kids say sorry? It’s a question I’ve asked myself countless times during the various shoves, whacks, hair yanks and occasional bites I’ve dealt with over the past few years. When I was growing up, misdemeanours were immediately rectified with a...

(Pause)

Stop.How are you reading this?Are you on your phone?At work?On a laptop in front of the TV?Would you mind taking a moment to focus just on this screen?Just notice your breathing.Is it fast? Slow?Just take a moment to slow it down. Take a nice long deep breath in...

The Politics of Parenting

Since the iPhone entered my world, with instant access to a limitless amount of information, I can’t even begin to imagine the number of articles I’ve read about parenting (mostly at 2am). Each day, I flick through at least 10 different opinions, ideas and...